Mediation Case Studies
Mixed Marriage Dispute
The Problem – Family mediation, Tariq met Katherine at university and although from totally different cultures and religions he could not help but fall for her, they both graduated and had been seeing each other for 7 years, Tariq knew his family would not approve of Katherine as she was not Muslim, Katherine equally knew her parents would not approve of Tariq as he was not Catholic.
Eventually both broke the news to their respective families which was not well received, at first the families vowed not to have anything to do with their children if they choose to go against their wishes and get married.
Some time elapsed and the families realised that this was not a phase their children were going through and their threats and ultimatums were being ignored, and the wedding would go ahead with or without them.
Eventually the families very reluctantly agreed to the pair getting married, which was a huge relief for Tariq and Katherine, however issues of whether the wedding would be a Muslim or Catholic ceremony surfaced, equally what would the couple be raising their children as, obviously Muslim, no it would have to be Catholic.
The Solution – The mediator limited attendance of the mediation to Tariq and Katherine and both sets of parents, the parents felt that they had been more than reasonable by agreeing to let them marry and they needed some input, Tariq and Katherine contended they were adults and how they wished to live their lives was their prerogative, however they wanted their families to be involved and wanted to include where possible their views and beliefs.
It was finally agreed that there would be a Muslim as well as a Catholic ceremony, any children would be made aware of their parents respective faiths and when they were old enough it was for them to choose which faith if any they wished to follow, although this was not the agreement the families wanted, it was the only fair agreement which Tariq and Katherine could come up with, which catered for their families and was fair and realistic for them.
- The mediation took 1 day compared to the 9 months this family dispute had already gone on.
- The mediation cost each party £500.00 compared to the thousands they would have had to spend had they continued with more formal procedures.